Narcissists love to control and stay in control of other people. They can't accept that someone does not want to be with them or reject them. To divorce a narcissist in spite of the narcissist's unwillingness to do so, the partner of the narcissist has to face with a myriad of obstacles that are put forth by the narcissist to maintain control of the situation.
To heal from narcissistic abuse, we must accept what narcissism is, accept that the person caused the abuse is a narcissist, and accept that that person will never change.
During my journey, sometimes I made progress while other times I took a step backward in my recovery. How I felt about things could be quite unpredictable, especially in the beginning. The recovery process is not a linear path, it's rather a composite of many emotional peaks and valleys.