Narcissists live in fear of being controlled by others. To avoid that, they create scenarios so that they can have the upper hand over their victims. Long after I was done with the Narcissist (the N) that I dealt with, I shuddered to think about his controlling behaviors.
Accusations from narcissists are actually confession. I wish I would have known about this little golden tip earlier in my dealing with the Narcissist (the N), it would have saved me so much time trying to figure out what he was doing. With hindsight now, I realized that pretty much everything he accused me of...
Triangulation is a manipulative technique where the toxic person such as a narcissist uses a third person to influence the relationship between you and him/her.